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For pet owners, deciding whether to share a bed with their furry friends is a divisive and timeless debate. I will unabashedly tell anyone I meet that my best friend is a 10-year-old spaniel named George, but when it comes to the nighttime routine and the social hierarchy woven into it, it can cause problems for many people. Some cherish the closeness of a fluffy little so-and-so breaching the cold, empty sheets of a king-sized bed, while others see it as a boundary better left uncrossed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For Josh Cowden, a 33-year-old personal trainer, the idea of dogs off the bed is unthinkable. Growing up with a pet, Josh built his life around them and now shares his bed with three snow-white West Highland Terriers. \u201cI have always had dogs on the bed. It wouldn\u2019t surprise me if I had dogs in the cot with me as a baby,\u201d he jokes. Josh views his dogs\u2019 presence as a source of all-encompassing comfort rather than a hindrance. \u201cTheir presence is very calming. It soothes the soul,\u201d he says, adding that his dogs act as little radiators, saving him money on heating bills. This point should be considered with rising bills and the inevitability of a relentlessly inconsistent British winter. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Josh even built a little staircase for his Westies from a wooden pallet in his garden to help them get onto the bed. The simple but elegant creation had been crafted from a wooden pallet that littered his garden for several months. Josh agreed, though, with the notions of hierarchical issues. \u201cThey all desire the spare pillow, which can get cumbersome.\u201d Despite this, Josh insists that sleeping without his dogs feels unnatural. \u201cWhen I go away, it\u2019s so strange not to have them there.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n

Karen O\u2019Leary, a dog trainer and Easy Peasy Puppy instructor, says whether dogs should share their beds is a personal choice. \u201cIt should be an all-or-nothing thing. It\u2019s confusing for a dog if you allow it sometimes but not others.\u201d Karen\u2019s own experiences highlight both the benefits and drawbacks. \u201cI had a history of depression, and I found that sleeping with dogs helps with that. It can be a sleep aid.\u201d Though not all sunshine and rainbows, Karen agreed, acknowledging the capacity for challenges: \u201cI have a huge dog who likes to sleep sideways. He couldn\u2019t care less where you are. Rolling over is sometimes impossible.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This also brought up possible behaviour issues, like resource guarding. If a dog tends to guard its space, that could be a problem. \u201cFor example, if someone gets up to use the bathroom and the pet claims their spot, it might lead to tension.\u201d In those cases, Karen recommends keeping dogs off the bed and finding another place to sleep. During the summertime, when the bed is essentially too warm for George, he enjoys sleeping on the much cooler bathroom floor. This is one of many alternatives. Growing up with hundreds of rescues has made it clear that this is always a pet-dependent matter. While these issues seem intimidating, they\u2019re usually minor and can be solved with compassion and patience, and Karen agreed. Tracking back to the poo-eating situation, Karen had no words of wisdom or miracle cures for this issue, instead saying it was essentially a fact of life. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other end of the spectrum, a seasoned dog breeder, Hannah Putnam, advises against allowing dogs on the bed and bringing up the behaviour and cleanliness issues. \u201cThey can become possessive and territorial from a young age,\u201d she explains. Male dogs, in particular, are inclined in such a way. But Hannah notes it can be mitigated by removing their \u2018bits\u2019. As a breeder, she practices what she preaches by crate training her puppies until they leave for their new homes. \u201cYou really must be mad not to crate a puppy or completely disregard any carpets you own.\u201d Crating is not the question at hand. However, it is not practical to have a litter of puppies running amok on the bed; this is without dispute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Nevertheless, regarding adult dogs, Hannah acknowledges a gap between her seemingly steadfast personal beliefs. There lies an inarguable divide within her household. Two of her dogs sleep at the foot of her bed while the others languish in the depths of the utility room. She didn\u2019t comment on the details of the promotion and relegation system at play, but said that a regular dog bed suffices for the two in her utility. She justifies this arrangement by pointing to her dogs\u2019 historical roles. \u201cThere was once a time when dachshunds hunted badgers. They don\u2019t need to be on the bed. They don\u2019t need a bed the size of an island.\u201d For Hannah, it’s all about balancing practicality and affection, not only for her sanity but also for the well-being of her four dogs. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Working on the guise, it is acceptable and healthy for oneself and the dog to distribute duvet coverage evenly; it raises one final question: what if you don\u2019t share the bed solely with your loyal canine? Mimi Devlin, a 22-year-old marketing executive, learned firsthand how tumultuous the issue of dogs on the bed can be. Looking back on her nine-month relationship, she says, \u201cI don\u2019t hate dogs; I could see myself having one. But I\u2019d rather have a clean pet waiting for me in the kitchen.\u201d However, this battle for comfort, poise and peacefulness caused the end of her loving relationship with her former partner. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mimi and her two sisters had always been denied the blessing of a pet in any capacity, so the experience of sharing a bed with Walter, her ex-boyfriend’s Bretan, was a shock. \u201cMy ex believed it was the same as my jellycats. It\u2019s not the same. I\u2019ve never seen my jellycats eat poo.\u201d Mimi\u2019s candour raised an excellent point; it is true, from my experience, jellycats seldom eat poo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There were not only hygiene concerns; from a sheer logistical standpoint, Mimi raised another fair point. At 5\u20191, she felt dwarfed by Walter, who took up significant bed space. \u201cHe kept licking me in the night and stepping on me. It was like he was telling me to move.\u201d Hygiene concerns return here somewhat, but we shall continue on the hierarchy issues. After long, muddy runs, Walter was allowed to let the dirt dry and fall off instead of being bathed. Mimi recalls, \u201cA thick layer of sandy mud would cover the bed.\u201d Looking back, Walter was probably prioritised in that relationship, but that\u2019s another story. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cLosing to Walter stung,\u201d she admits. However, she demanded that I make it abundantly clear she harbours no ill will toward the dog himself, concluding Walter was pretty \u201csound\u201d. Looking back, it creates a good question: to sleep, you must have an all-encompassing safe space. With the waves of dirt and size disparity looming firmly over Mimi’s head. Could she be expected to get her 8 hours? Hannah rightly attests to the history of many a rough and rugged dog breed. They don\u2019t need the high thread count or a wealth of decorative pillows. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fascinatingly, a dog’s position in a bed isn\u2019t about the pet \u2013 it\u2019s about the humans involved. All the evidence suggests that the dog is fine wherever it is; as long as it\u2019s comfy and consistent, it shall not falter. The issues of guarding or anxiety over its owner tossing and turning seem relatively inconsequential. Nonetheless, it provides an elegant insight into how humans perceive man’s best friend. The issue was a dealbreaker for Mimi, highlighting differing priorities and perspectives. For Hannah, it\u2019s about finding a consistent approach that works for the dog and the owner. And for Josh, it\u2019s a source of comfort and companionship that outweighs the occasional inconvenience. Meanwhile, Karen\u2019s perspective underscores the importance of boundaries and training.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The answers lie firmly within the relationship you have with your dog. As Karen wisely says, \u201cIt\u2019s not a black-and-white answer.\u201d Whether enforcing the no-dogs-on-the-bed rule or arranging your three westies to share the remaining pillow space amongst them best, the goal is to allow all parties to be sufficiently secure and adequately rested by tomorrow. Throughout my life, I know I will always side with Josh for better or worse, knowing that it does feel unusual to sleep without my gang. Though I am sure a mass of Mimi\u2019s exist with a host of firm but fair night time boundaries.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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