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WARNING EXTREME EXPLICIT CONTENT<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It’s a well known fact that sleeping next to someone you love has a plethora of benefits. Studies<\/a> show that it can relieve anxiety, strengthen emotional bonds and even have positive effects on immune system function. But what happens when you sleep next to people you don\u2019t know? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You might be thinking, when on earth do people sleep next to strangers? A very valid question indeed, however I\u2019m sure many people are likely to be familiar with the good old concept of the one night stand.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despite research<\/a> suggesting that young twenty-somethings are having less sex than older generations at their age, a one-night stands indisputably remains a common occurrence. The nature of this \u2018hook-up culture\u2019 is particularly prevalent within social spheres that easily facilitate it, like university. But can you really sleep soundly next to virtual strangers?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We\u2019ve compiled some of our readers’ thoughts and feelings for you to ponder over.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI matched with this boy on a dating app. I was in bed and thought why not, but then I got really tired and went off on the idea of inviting him round. I said that I was tired and hungry and he told me he\u2019d bring me a Domino\u2019s pizza. He was sort of problem solving all of my excuses. When he got to my house the pizza was too hot so we had sex then ate the pizza. After that I said I wanted to go to bed alone and then asked him to leave because unless I know the person quite well I\u2019d rather avoid the intimacy of sleeping in a bed with them.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIt\u2019s because I find it exhausting. You’re not comfortable around them so it feels like a performance which is why I don’t want to stay or want them to stay because it feels like I\u2019m putting on a show the whole time. I can\u2019t feel comfortable enough to sleep when I\u2019m trying to keep that up. Plus to me sleeping next to someone, being actually unconscious, that is so vulnerable. I sleep extremely heavily so I wouldn\u2019t want to think they were just awake, I would feel unsafe, they could literally do anything to me.\u201d – An anonymous girl<\/em>\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI\u2019ve had a fair few one night stands. A lot of the time I\u2019d just say I was busy after sleeping with them and leave or if they were at my house I would just make up some sort of excuse as to why they can\u2019t be there anymore. I\u2019m not there to sleep, it\u2019s just a purely sexual motivation the vast majority of the time. If I didn\u2019t sleep with them I\u2019d feel like it was a waste of time, what was the point in going back with someone then, I thought sex was the whole point.\u201d – An anonymous boy<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI got back from the club at about 4AM and we were messaging and I just said come round. I\u2019d never met him before, never even seen him in person, just in a picture. He came round and we just had very very quick sloppy sex and then he passed out asleep. I couldn’t get to sleep because it just feels wrong and the longer the day goes on the more my good feelings progress, but then again one night stands for me have always been drunk and for attention. Plus I only ever have them after I\u2019ve been through a breakup when I\u2019m missing having someone there constantly. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI did have a stage where I would invite this one boy back and just ask him loads of questions instead of sleeping with him to prove a point. I was like you\u2019re not having sex with me, I\u2019m just going to ask you loads of questions. I got a lot out of making him think, usually when blokes come back with a girl it\u2019s just sex sex sex but I liked actually making them think. I liked seeing him squirm a bit, normally it’s the girl who feels vulnerable and uncomfortable.\u201d – An anonymous girl<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThe way we had sex was very intimate and there were things that I\u2019d never tried before that he was doing that I thought was really overwhelming, especially for a one night stand. He took the head off his electric toothbrush and put the metal bit on my clit and used it as a vibrator. The whole thing was just too much. I was wide awake afterwards, I just couldn\u2019t fall back asleep because I was overthinking it all. We never really spoke after it, he just ignored me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI think I just can\u2019t sleep comfortably around people I don\u2019t know because I don\u2019t trust people like that. You don\u2019t really want to have a cuddle with people you don\u2019t know, that’s quite an intimate thing or at least it is for me. All I know for sure is that I would never have another one night stand, I\u2019m genuinely traumatised from it.\u201d – An anonymous girl\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI meet girls on a night out and go home with them and that\u2019s that. I don\u2019t speak to them after really. I mean if I walk past them in the street I\u2019d say hi but that\u2019s about it. For me it\u2019s the thinking that comes after of why did I do that. I feel like they\u2019re a stranger so it’s really uncomfortable because I don\u2019t know them, I don\u2019t know if they\u2019re cuddly or not and things like that. All the time these days I wake up and think what the fuck am I doing but then again I think I\u2019d sleep badly anyway when I\u2019ve been drinking so it\u2019s whatever.\u201d – An anonymous boy\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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